jewcoded:

theunitofcaring:

So I haven’t posted about this since college because I don’t think it’s ever happened to me since I got out of college, but a recent conversation reminded me that it’s still negatively affecting lots of other people, so:

Lots of people find it distressing to be asked their pronouns. They might be trans and not out, or trans and out to some of the people present but not all of them, or not sure if they’re trans, or entirely cis and just really hate being asked to think about the question. I personally freak out about ‘preferred pronouns’ because it makes me go “uh, I don’t really prefer ‘she/her’, I’d much rather be parsed as a genderless amorphous being, but I don’t prefer that strongly enough to go through the hassle of trying to get people to actually see me that way, especially since I’m not really sure it’d work, and people will get confused by ‘they/them’, and if I express a pronoun preference then I’ll be more upset about people getting it wrong than if I don’t, and aaaaaahhh I prefer not to be in a social context where I have to have this thought process it makes me sad!!!”

Other people find it affirming, and that’s legitimate too. There are definitely competing needs here. But I think, since there are competing needs, you at least need to allow for an exit strategy for the people who will be harmed by pressure to come up with an answer.

So: “nametags are here, also feel free to put pronouns on your nametag if you want” is great. “nametags are here, put your name and pronouns!” or “why aren’t there pronouns on your nametag?” are going to cause stress and potentially cause harm.

“Share any of ‘favorite animal, best concert you’ve been to recently, and preferred pronouns, but feel free to skip any of those if you’re coming up empty’” is a decent way to handle competing needs if you’re doing “go around in a circle and introduce yourself”. And if you’re doing introductions with pronouns and someone doesn’t volunteer a pronoun, don’t remind them; the risk they skipped it on purpose and you’re putting them on the spot is not worth the benefits of getting an answer if they just forgot.

Gender sucks. When we’re trying to make it better for people, we need to keep making sure there are doors open to flee screaming ‘aaaah fuck gender’.

#yeah also some trans people can get worried if they’re asked their pronouns #especially if they’re stealth for their privacy and safety and it can seem like they’re not passing #passing isn’t important to everyone but it is important to some people #also if you’re only asking the pronouns of anyone in a group #who seem gender ambiguous #you’re really putting a target on people’s backs #the logic and often intention behind asking pronouns seems to be coming from a good place #but you have no idea how safe a room is #and you have no idea what’s going on with the other people in it #fostering safe environments for people to be open about their pronouns #(especially if they use “’‘non-obvious”“ pronouns wrt their gender presentation) #is a good thing  #but there is no way to one size fits all transness #and your priority should be keeping trans people safe and comfortable #not scoring ally points 

(via @ashkiepassing)

garashirs:

concept: those sparkly cowboy party hats, but in pride flag colours

so apparently these already exist, and you can get them right here

jimstiberiuskirk:

GET TO KNOW ME MEME:  Star trek [2009]

I looked up your file while you were drooling on the floor. Your aptitude tests are off the charts, so what is it? If you’re half the man your father was, Jim, Starfleet could use you. You understand what the Federation is, don’t you? It’s important. It’s a peacekeeping and humanitarian armada… Your father was captain of a Starship for 12 minutes. He saved 800 lives, including your mother’s and yours. I dare you to do better. 

laghertalothbrok:

THE PEVENSIES THROUGH THE YEARS | inspired by [x]
“Once a king or queen of Narnia, always a king or queen of Narnia.”

lesbianshadowcat:

-_*

shatterstar

myxmentrashblog:

kendrasaunders:

so in honor of scott summers dying (he’ll be fine) here’s what happens when x men “"kills”“ emma frost who will, in this case, also be fine, as dying is to x men as breathing is to the rest of us

emma as she’s dying: ororo. ororo listen to me. i have dinner reservations at that one place in paris. you have to make them two years in advance. do NOT cancel my reservation. i will be FINE. whatever happens, the reservation STAYS

scott was genuinely upset as emma was dying and he was crying over her and was like no emma dont leave me and emma, in a mocking voice, like “no emma dont leave me listen to yourself i’ll be back in six months shut up idiot”

ororo: her last words were “is jean also dead? good.” and then she died

emma’s funeral, which is just held at the hellfire club, is just all portraits of emma. especially the nudes. its nothing but nudes. it’s how she wanted to be remembered
ororo reading the pre-written eulogy emma wrote for her: emma grace frost was the most kind, beautiful, charming soul on this planet.
 pietro: raises hand 
ororo: she wrote this
pietro: lowers hand

she wanted me to tell you all she died doing something interesting, like riding an extremely expensive and rare horse, and not doing, in her words, “something stupid like saving the entire team.” which is, of course, what she did. that being said, here is the picture of the very expensive horse she wanted to show all of you, to remind everyone that she was rich, so very rich, and you are not

emma returning from the dead 7 months later strolling into the mansion and announcing I HAVE NOTES ON HOW WE CAN IMPROVE MY FUNERAL

logan: how was hell
emma: boring and overrated
logan: satan kicked you out didnt he
emma: that’s not the point

This is art

sh4tterstar:

me, someone who knowingly posted icons i made for people to use: *sees someone with an icon i made*

bisexualgambit:

Guide to spotting a gay man in 80s-90s comics:

-Often called a “pretty boy”

-Has a man in his life who is his “uhh… friend” 

-ANGER ISSUES

bpdstri:

pro-gay:

pro-gay:

pro-gay:

Every time I have those little internalized homophobia demons preying on me making me wonder if I’m not actually gay I see a man in sweatpants and my homosexuality is immediately reaffirmed

See I love my posts because this can be taken both ways and it would be true either way

it doesn’t even matter if you’re gay or a lesbian this post is universal. You’re all welcome.

true mlm/wlw solidarity is seeing a man and thinking “im gay”