manywinged:

*thinks about werewolves in relation to trauma and the effects of abuse, especially the anger and guilt* *starts howling*

you are the wolf and the wolf is you but the wolf is fearsome more than fearful and bites the hand without waiting to see if it means beat or feed. you did not ask for this and you did not do this to yourself and you do not want the wolf you carry coiled inside you until it explodes out, unleashed, and it is not divine it is not holy this is not the terrible glory and righteous fury of angels but something more savage and primal and full of teeth, the beast that does not obey like the tamed dog but rips and tears its way through and free. you wish the wolf would never wake and when you are the wolf you still know fear and you still know shame because you are still more you than you’d like to admit but you also find that when you are the wolf you can now fight back. so you learn to live with the wolf and to keep it quiet and secret, to take your leave and transform out of sight and out of reach of those, well-meaning or otherwise, who it would hurt. you look after the wolf and the wolf looks after you. you wear each other on the inside because you cannot trust anyone else to protect you.

manywinged:

while we’re on the topic of mental health issues we shouldn’t demonize i want to say something for people with anger issues. why is every popular portrayal of people with anger issues “abuser” or “bigot” (or both)? yes these people exist but people with anger issues who are just doing their best to be people also exist. no, of course it’s not okay for us to use our mental health as an excuse to lash out and hurt people. but we exist. we’re people. we matter. and we’re trying to be good and kind. so please stop using “anger issues” when you really mean “abusive” or “asshole”.

one addition i’ll make to this post that a few people have discussed in the notes (which i’d actually encourage reading for once because there’s some really good points being made) is that a lot of people develop anger issues because of being forced to suppress their emotions as a result of being abused, or because people don’t make an attempt to understand that their anger issues are a result of mental health/development issues that they deserve support with, and so they suffer and get worse rather than learning coping mechanisms that help them to improve their quality of life and mental health. so the abuser stereotype often associated with us is really unfair and doesn’t reflect most of us at all.

“the message of carrie is NOT to kill your abusers with fire but to consider how you treat other people” those 2 things are not mutually exclusive

pranaferox444:

Happy Valentine’s day, be a sweetheart by giving your local poor, disabled, trans gay money so he can escape an abusive household and pay for his transition 💖

:

this is a burner blog so my abusers dont find me but i really need financial support so i can afford to leave my abusers’ home and live away from them. i dont want to get to much into it because it’ll possibly be triggering but my mother and brother have been beating and abusing me since i was a child. i came out as trans / gay and while i was expecting it to be bad, i didnt expect to be completely neglected or beaten with barely any inbetween. please signal boost this or reblog or something - i just need to leave this house before something worse happens. thank you for reading this, remember you dont HAVE to donate, a rt is enough, but it does help me out!

paypal: paypal.me/yuvae

cashapp: salehmmood

kalanchoeblossfeldiana:

kalanchoeblossfeldiana:

kalanchoeblossfeldiana:

kalanchoeblossfeldiana:

au where jon agnes and gerry form a friend group called ‘being the chosen one sucks a lot actually’

new thot about thid dynamic

listen,

EXTREMELY good takes on this post so far

literallyaflame:

literallyaflame:

no offense but “if i had shitty parents i would simply disown them and not put up with it uwu” is always an extremely shitty take. like. it’s usually Not That Easy™, especially for people who are underage and/or living at home

it’s especially frustrating bc i know people who have had to go 100% no contact w their own family on a permanent basis and it’s…. not easy. even if your family sucks garbage and treated you like shit nonstop, it can be extremely difficult to cut them out of your life like that. please don’t minimize that pain

misgenderisms:

misgenderisms:

once again i remind people that their is no “ABUSIVE SHITTY PERSON” disorder, there are symptoms that could lead to a person becoming an abuser but no disorder is 200% gateway to being a shitty person. YOU decide if you improve yourself and YOU decide whether not to be an abuser, not your disorder. saying that “all people with X disorder are bad!” just churns out more stigmatization and leads people to getting less access to resources for mental health. 

Idk if yall heard me correctly but YES this very much includes people with psychosis and personality disorders.

manywinged:

manywinged:

if you think carrie white was “scary” or a “villain” then you don’t get to dress as her for halloween

if you’ve ever bullied someone you don’t get to dress as carrie or use her “aesthetic” for halloween and also deserve to be set on fire

tbh i should elaborate the way that carrie’s iconic image has been taken and turned into a halloween costume kinda sucks because like… yes it’s an awesome look and i absolutely love it myself but all these hundreds of carrie makeup, hair and costume tutorials that glamorize (and sanitize) the “aesthetic” of “crazy bloody prom queen carrie” while completely ignoring the horrific, cruel, very real (as in, exists in the real world and happens to real people, i know she’s a fictional character) abuse she suffered that gives context to her actions, without which she is almost always inevitably portrayed and seen (and condemned) as an evil, scary horror movie villain and not the victim, because that’s not “pretty” or “marketable” really says something about how we treat victims and their trauma and their responses to that trauma, either romanticizing and even commodifying or ignoring it depending on whether we can make it “pretty” or not.

like on the one hand it’s not that deep and hey, i’ve personally considered going as carrie for halloween because as someone who’s been bullied and abused i identify a lot with her, so i can’t really cry foul to other people doing so and definitely wouldn’t dream of asking them to share any traumatic experiences they might have to be “allowed” to - or even say that people who haven’t been bullied and abused can’t dress as her. i’m not trying to say the carrie halloween look is banned and stop people from enjoying things. doing it because it makes you feel empowered, paying homage to a great film, or even just doing it because you like the look and want to have fun on fright night - all of those are perfectly valid reasons.

but it does kinda suck a little bit that people who made other kids’ lives a living hell when they were in highschool and/or continue to perpetuate that abuse as adults then turn around and put on a white dress and fake blood because its trendy and fun to pretend, with no regard for how the character they’re dressed as reflects the suffering of their real life victims. and it makes me sad that they probably never will think about it as they scrub that fake blood off in the bathtub and go back to their daily lives at the end of the night. that’s all.