snakegay:

snakegay:

it really disgusts me that people will choose to have kids and then regret it and feel nothing for them. its so fucking selfish 

like i get that theres IMMENSE social pressure to have children and that people are all like “ohhh i didnt know what i was getting into” or “oh i thought mothers just instantly bond with their kids always :(((” but like these people are fucking sapient human adults, they should be more than capable of thinking thru a decision that will result in a commitment for the rest of their lives. there is absolutely no excuse not to think it thru. 

i dont give a shit about your sob stories, the only people who deserve sympathy are the kids having to be raised by parents who regret having them. if theres any chance youll regret having kids, or that some form of adversity could make you regret it, then DONT FUCKING HAVE CHILDREN. 

halfhardtorock:

Anyway not loving your kids is emotional abuse, SORRY! Especially if you’re perfectly capable of feeling empathetic towards people. There is no such thing as “they didn’t love their kids but they were doing the best they could by them and taking care of their needs.”

Nope!

One central, critical need of children is to be loved and nurtured and I cannot fucking believe the conversation going around on tumblr right now, TUMBLR, where we all constantly vent about and detail our own histories of childhood abuse and neglect. Like lmao? Your parents should have loved you. You deserved that. So do these kids.

Fuck you if you think parents venting about hating their kids is ~important~ because you have some kind of Childfree agenda that’s more important to you than the wellbeing of actual, living, abused children.

nancycunard:

im deleting my account

vcigar2:

vcigar:

wheres all the support for the emotional abuse victims

no, seriously. victims of emotional abuse have it hard because they do not have the physical marks or the records to “prove” to someone they were hurt and are hurting. most people will not take emotional abuse as seriously as physical abuse, saying “you should get over it” or “sticks and stones”. thats fucking bullshit.

emotional abuse victims who have been forced to do or say or be things you never wanted to, i love you.

emotional abuse victims who have been gaslighted and manipulated to the point where you no longer know what is real, i care for you.

emotional abuse victims who are told they will never be loved by anyone else and they are not a good person, you are amazing.

emotional abuse victims who feel manipulative and often catch themselves mirroring actions of their abusers and feel sick to their stomachs because theyre “turning into them”, you are not them and never will be. you are so much better than that.

emotional abuse victims who have to live every day suffering because nobody understands how messed up you are from what they said or did or made you do, you arent alone.

anyone who reads this, i care for you. please support all victims of abuse every single day because they deserve it just like they deserve the love and care those in the past have failed to provide them

validx2:

When you joking with ya mom and then she turns it into a lecture

takeachillquill:

People just want abuse victims that are soft and kind and gentle, the kind of victims who validate their beliefs that “everything happens for a reason”. It doesn’t occur to these people that abuse actually damages people, that it could turn victims bitter and resentful rather than into poster-children for resilience and inner-strength. Victims don’t just exist to pay homage to your worldview that “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” as if abuse could ever be a positive or an experience to be grateful for. 

patchedsystem:

me: *tries to process A Trauma* 
me: okay… um….. wow….  never doing that again 

marril96:

sumersprkl:

baku:

the worst memories of being bullied is when ppl would pretend not to be bullying you and ask you questions and u thought they were just asking u stuff but they were actually laughing at you the entire time and u had no idea bcos you were young and you didnt understand why people would be mean to you when you didnt do anything wrong. 

I spent a lot of my childhood in a constant state of “this is a trap but I don’t know how”

This stayed with me. Sometimes when people are nice to me, I still think they have bad intentions.

ghettoinuyasha:

when the trauma is fresh