it’s funny how people outside tumblr assume this place is a ‘safe haven’ for LGBT people and honestly for a long time i thought so too but there’s only so many times you can see posts about how lesbians are predatory and abusive or entire groups dedicated to harassing and doxxing trans people just for existing before you realise that maybe you’ll never be able to escape the fact that there’s still a significant and vocal number of people still want you to suffer at best and dead at the worst, and by ‘funny’ i mean it’s really not funny at all, like, i’m so sick and tired of living like this, constantly looking over my shoulder and wondering if i’ll ever be allowed to feel safe

eustomas:

eustomas:

when will cis women stop playing trans men and cis men stop playing trans women in movies and shit lmao like are we fucking done yet

1) Start actually giving transgender actors/actresses roles. Stop taking roles away from trans people.

2) We all know that you are allowing cis women to act as trans men and cis men to act as trans women because you do not see transgender people as their gender, but as women and men playing dress up. Whatever excuses y’all have for this are ignorant bullshit at best. 

3) Cis people can’t sympathize with transgender struggles ever it seems.

4) I’m truly tired of cisgender people being rewarded and fawned over for being “brave enough” to take trans roles.

5) Cis people smell

gaylor-moon:

petefoxshend:

commanderabutt:

commanderabutt:

commanderabutt:

just a quick note- no trans person has ever said “did you just assume my gender.” trans people are very aware of how their gender and physical appearance differ and that visually one might assume that they are a man/woman when they are actually not. that’s kind of the whole idea of gender dysphoria. 

and also you’ve beaten your “attack helicopter” joke into the fucking ground. cut that shit out.

i wanted to add one more thing to this post that other people have pointed out: i know its an awkward question, but a lot of trans people are going to be 100% fine with you asking what their gender is, or with calmly correcting you if you get it wrong. and if they’re not, then they’re way more likely to keep it to themselves than get visibly angry with someone. this idea that trans people just go apeshit when people misgender them accidentally/when first meeting them is a complete fabrication for a stupid joke and that’s why i despise it so much. 

I can’t afford to get visibly angry about people misgendering me because that puts me in danger of getting harmed. once a cis person finds out my gender, one of two things will happen: they either accept me to various degrees, or they reject me and potentially escalate the situation. politeness is the only way I can decrease the risk of the latter.

the “DID YOU ASSUME MY GENDER?!” trope only serves to make trans people look ridiculous/unreasonable in the eyes of cis people, and places in their minds preconceptions about us that makes it harder, ultimately, for us to come out safely. if all they know about trans people are shitty jokes, then we as a people become those jokes to them.

yeah cis people, seeing as you’re literally the only people that make these jokes I’m gonna need you to reblog this

lesbiangang:

LGBT people: stop being homophobic and transphobic

homophobes/transphobes: Wow Okay Everyone Lets All Take A Look At The “All Accepting and Loving LGBT Community”  Insulting Other People.